How To Spice Up Your Relationship And Make It As Fiery As Ever
Have you been in a relationship for twenty, ten, three or even just one year, but are feeling the deep passion fading? Maybe your relationship is quite fine, but you simply don’t get as crazily turned on as you used to. Well, you don’t need to worry too much, since this is completely normal.
All couples generally experience a lull in their love life at one point or the other. However, this doesn’t mean that you should simply dismiss it. Unfortunately, your once-fiery love life will never be restored if you don’t do anything about it.
Here are a number of useful tips to help you bring back the spark in your relationship:
Talk About Your Relationship
The worst thing you can ever do about your fading passion is to keep it bottled up inside you. Put yourself in the shoes of your partner and consider how she/ he will feel when he/ she realizes that you have been faking an orgasm. That will simply devastate your partner and make the situation even worse than it already is.
The very first step to take is to simply reveal the truth about your predicament. While doing this, never make it out as if it is your partner’s fault that you are never aroused. This will not help solve the problem. In fact, you might come to find out that your partner is experiencing the exact same situation as you are.
Try an approach like this,
“Honey, I love you very much and I would love for us to talk about spicing up our love life some more.”
When you start by affirming your love for your partner, you not only cushion him/ her from the perception of feeling inadequate in fulfilling your conjugal rights, but you also make him/ her open to any suggestions.
Talking about your bedroom issues should always come as a natural and frequent aspect of your life. Otherwise, that part of your life might soon get overrun by so many seemingly important issues, leading to a drab and tasteless love life.
Trying Out New Things Builds A Fiery Relationship
When was the last time you ever visited a sex therapist or even went to the sex shop. If you have never thought of doing such a thing, you definitely must begin thinking about doing so. No one was ever born an expert in intimacy, which means that you definitely need all the help you can get if you truly want to restore the fiery intimacy.
One thing that is sure to spark the fires in your relationship is a bit of fun and adventure. If you keep doing the same old things, in the same old ways, no doubt your relationship will soon dry up and the excitement will fade. Learn a few more tricks, get a new sex toy and spice up the action in your bedroom.
Never let it turn into a predictable routine, but instead learn and try out new adventures that are guaranteed to transform your bedroom. Perhaps, what you have been doing has been all wrong, and you simply need someone to show you how to do it right. What a wonderful and truly gratifying surprise it would be to finally discover the joys and thrills derived from a simple change.
Of course, you also need to let your imagination run wild and actualize some of your fantasies. Never be ashamed of what you always dream of doing with your partner. You would be shocked and happily surprised to realize that he/ she actually wants the very same thing or something even raunchier.
There are yet many erogenous and sizzling styles that you have yet to explore with your partner. You will be surprised how much more exciting your bedroom will be when you simply try out all the secret desires you have been keeping bottled up.
Healthy Relationships Require More Active Time Together
Many times what happens behind the closed bedroom door is as a result of what happened throughout the day. If the interaction with your partner is not as close as it was some time past, the intimacy is also likely to be affected. This usually happens when kids come into the picture or increasing demands at work. To counter this, you both must strive to set apart time to be together.
A great way to increase the interaction with your partner is to get involved in leisure activities such as hiking, picnicking, jogging together among others. Participating in physical activities is a great way to bond and closely interact with your partner. Typically, it builds a team spirit and cooperation that works wonders to your love life.
Spending time doing passive activities is not likely to give the same results as physical activities. Doing such things as spending a lazy afternoon watching tv together cannot compare to the mental and physical connection derived from playing a game of chess.
Moreover, you both need to help each other in household and other joint responsibilities. By doing this, your partner would not hold any grudges against you, which normally affects your love life. Helping each other serves to build the bond you share and makes your appreciate each other even more. This is a sure recipe for a super-fiery love life.
Although, there are general principles guiding every relationship, each one would have various unique aspects. Therefore, it is not wise to try applying something that worked with your friend’s relationship to your own. It might backfire. You need to understand the unique preferences of your partner and always try to accommodate such tastes.
For instance, if your partner is normally reserved, he/ she would most likely not approve of extremely radical bedroom adventures. In such a case, you need to ensure that your partner first approves of what you intend to do before ever trying it out. Otherwise, try to be as moderate as possible.
On the other hand, an open-minded and adventurous partner is never shy about trying out new things. If you are the one with more conservative views in such a relationship, you definitely need to try overcoming some of your misgivings, for the sake of your relationship.Tom Douvia
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