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Bonding with bondage! Is That A Double Negative? Whatever, Let’s go!

 A light spank or a gentle tickle would be one of the first entries in the oldest “How to” book of heightening bodily pleasures. Even Kama sutra, the god of all sex manuals has a surprisingly detailed section on how to perfect the most arousing slap on your partner’s butt cheeks.

On a much more modern context, we all are aware of the raunchy and heated sexual acts between Anastasia Steel and Christian Grey which made “50 Shades of Grey” a worldwide phenomenon. Bondage is not some shady, twisted form of deviance as many Hollywood flicks would have us believe. Bedroom bondage is nothing but a form of sexual exploration among two consensual adults. Read the rest of this entry

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Restraints and Bondage

Etiquette

Risk Reduction

Percussion Play

Whipping

New To BDSM?

For those lovers who wish to venture into uncharted waters in the bedroom, BDSM practices can be great outlets for expressing erotic, and some non-erotic desires.

In many countries around the world, men and women have been engaging in different types of BDSM activities for a long time.

Featuring a widely varying assortment of restraints, furniture, and other equipment, BDSM practices can take many forms.

For the benefit of beginning BDSM enthusiasts and intrigued newcomers alike, some of the most fundamental and important information concerning such aspects as safety, and proper use of BDSM equipment, will be discussed briefly.

 

BDSM Restraints and Bondage

Using restraints and other means of binding can be a stimulating twist for all parties involved. These interesting and tantalizing ways of expressing sexual desires are a safe way of feeling a rush of extreme sensation with your partner.

There is a lot to know when preparing to engage in using different types of restraints and bondage, especially with regard to using knots and tied materials to bind a consenting partner. 

With all of the variations of knots available to those engaging in BDSM practices, there are definitely those variations that are more effective and safe than others.

Beginning BDSM participants are typically advised to learn and extensively practice certain knots that are most conducive to BDSM style binding.

This advice is generally given to beginners due to the fact that when BDSM participants are not well educated on the right way to tie binding knots, there can sometimes be a resulting injury, or even a fatality. 

With regard to the potential risk of injury while engaging in BDSM binding practices, these risks can be easily mitigated by educating oneself on proper knot tying procedures, and also by only using binding materials that have some elasticity to them.

In addition, it is important to never, ever, leave someone alone if they are bound. This is because binding can sometimes cause unexpected consequences for a participant, and so someone should always be in the presence of the participant when they are bound to avoid injury or severe discomfort. 

 

BDSM Etiquette

Fundamentally, BDSM etiquette comes down to establishing a mutual understanding between participants. It comes down to effective communication, and a sense of respect. With regard to communication, BDSM participants should discuss such subjects as individual BDSM interests, needs, desires, health requirements, and respective STD statuses.

By discussing the critical elements of BDSM activity with your partner, it is likely that you will not only gain a heighten sense of closeness and intimacy with them, but a mutual understanding of personal BDSM preference will be achieved as well. 

It is important to negotiate the terms and limits of a given BDSM activity before beginning, so that all participants can feel comfortable about what is going to happen.

The use of safe words is an effective way to ensure that all participants in a given BDSM activity can easily signify that they are either enjoying what is happening, or not enjoying it, or requiring that the activity stop immediately.

Often times using the metaphor of a traffic light is a useful way of creating safe words that are descriptively accurate; green, yellow, and red are all good safe words to use when engaging in those BDSM activites that may be slightly higher-risk. 

 

BDSM Risk Reduction

Safety plays a huge role in successful and enjoyable BDSM experiences, and for this reason it is important for participants to fully understand the risks and dangers that can sometimes be involved, and also how to minimize and reduce these risks.

Some of these risks are caused by sexually transmitted diseases, which have a relatively low occurrence with regard to most BDSM practices, but can still pose a danger to participants.

Also, even if all participants have negotiated what is going to happen within a given activity, it is still advised that emergency and first aid equipment be kept nearby in case of a quick ending being necessitated.

Some of this BDSM emergency equipment includes safety scissors for quickly cutting through binding materials and other restraining devices, and larger shears and bolt cutters in the event that heavy duty chains and padlocks are being used in an activity. 

 

Percussion Play

Percussion play can be a more fun and lighthearted area of BDSM, or it can be heavier and more serious if desired. Involving light to heavy spanking, whipping, and the like, percussion play is a form of BDSM activity that can be relatively safe.

This is because percussion play variations rarely ever involve any kind of penetration, which means that the chance of sexually transmitting diseases to a partner is considerably lower than it would be with other types of BDSM activities.

When engaging in percussion play activities, it is important to only spank or whip muscled areas of the body. This means avoiding spanking or hitting boney areas of the body, joints, hands, feet, neck, and head areas due to their sensitivity to being struck, and the possibility of them being injured.

Buttocks, calves, thighs, chest and upper back areas are some of the recommended areas of the body for percussion play, due to the fact that the muscle on a person’s body can be struck or spanked and typically not suffer any injury.

 

 

Whipping

A specific variation of percussion play, whipping is a popular activity among BDSM enthusiasts. One thing to always remember when engaging in whipping style BDSM activities is that open cuts or sores should always be covered up before starting.

This can help to minimize any further injury, and also minimize the possibility of transmitting blood or other bodily fluids via a whip swinging through the air. When using whips, the possibility of drawing blood is always present.

If a whip is used exclusively for not drawing blood, then it is safe to use it on multiple participants; if it is used to draw blood, then it is best to only use this whip on one individual since whips are usually impossible to sterilize completely.

When all precautions are taken, whipping can be a very enjoyable BDSM practice for all participants.

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Using BDSM to fulfill sexual desires

BDSM is a common term used to refer to bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism which are a sex category that has been gaining fanatics as the years go by. For individuals who like to experiment and try new things in bed, this is definitely worth a try. To make it even more exciting, bondage fetish furniture has been introduced in to the mix in an attempt to make things more interesting for those involved.

BDSM- beginners

For beginners, one should start by getting acquainted with all the various styles of fetish. Styles vary from role playing, use of restraints to include factors such as spanking through the use of different materials. Bondage furniture is a must have for those who would like to heighten the sexual pleasures during their acts.

Safety and Trust

Safety and trust are very important components when it comes to bondage activities. A partner must trust that their other half will be careful with the tools being used but at the same time also ensure that he or she gets to have fun. Where furniture is involved, the couple must make sure that it has come from a person who is well versed with the use of restraints.

Submission

The spanking bench is a common tool used in bondage sex. It is bench that has been made with the couple in mind. Also known as the bondage horse in some circles, it has been created in such a way that the submissive partner can lie in comfort without being hurt in any way during the entire exercise.

This can be used by both beginners and experienced couples. Given the position that the dominant person is standing at, he or she has total control over his partner. Mostly, the dominant individual is the spanker. At this level of elevation, the dominant partner is in a position to spank his partner and watch as they squirm due to the restraints that have been put in place.

Seduction

Seduction is also improved through the use of the bondage horse. Fetishes are all about what a person finds attractive in the other person. Bending over for spanking allows the spanker to enjoy the view that comes as a result of this type of elevation. In addition to getting to hit all the right spots, one also gets to heighten his sexual fetish by admiring the figure and body of his or her partner.

Anticipation

Anticipation has been known to heighten sexual tension during bdsm activities. All dungeon furniture is built in such a way that they are very comfortable. The added comfort allows the submissive party to concentrate on his excitement rather than worry about getting hurt or being uncomfortable. The fact that the restraints make it hard to more let alone turnaround is also exciting in its own unique way. This is mainly because one is not able to tell what is going to be done to him until the spanker has done it.

Exchanging Roles

Normally both partners involved in this type of fetish will enjoy exchanging roles. This means that they get to change between the submissive one and being the dominant one. At the end of it all, the dungeon furniture will ensure that both parties get maximum satisfaction through role playing and spanking each other at different angles using different amounts of strokes. Experimenting with the strokes can actually change the amount of pleasure experienced by the submissive partner.

Enhancing the Fantasies

As soon as a couple has acquired the spanking bench, they can use it to enhance their other sexual skills and fantasies. When the restraints are in place, an individual is at liberty to try different types of touch, use different spanking rhythms and alter as many aspects of the bdsm activities as they would like.

Where to find quality BDSM gear

It is however important to make sure that your fetish furniture has been built by an expert in the production of these types of furnishings and bdsm related activities. Individuals interested in placing custom orders indicating how they would like a certain piece of dungeon furniture to be built for them, can do so here at fetishfurniture.org. The very popular bondage benches in many cases come with as many as 17 restraint points, adjustable arms and legs and are easy to fold for storage related purposes. As a carpenter/ craftsman/ general contractor, you can be assured you are going to receive quality furnishings with durability and strength as well as tasteful beauty allowing sexual fantasies to blend with style and kinkiness.

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