Totally Consensual BDSM

The first consideration about BDSM is that it’s a safe form of sex that is also consensual. The only way how sex can really be suitable is if it is consensual. That is, the people engaged in sex have to agree to it and will want to participate in some unique form of sex if desired. It only makes sense for both parties to have some semblance of enjoyment if they’re going to engage in sex.

 

The “scenes” that people create when engaging in BDSM are designed to allow people to have a little more fun. Specifically, they are prepared in a way to where they are sensible and sane. They’re ones that are not going to be too dangerous and will be created based on what each person wants to do. For instance, negotiations can be used to determine how far something should go, what kinds of tools are to be used and what poses are right for the occasion.

 

People will talk about what they will do when engaging in BDSM and will set up their own limits on what can happen. There will always be a need to see that all people are of age and that there’s a proper safe word or signal to use for intense situations. In many cases a signal can be added in the event that a person is wearing a gag or some other kind of device and is unable to actually verbalize a need to get out of something.

Tom Douvia

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