BDSM Origins and History

 

Historical Origins of BDSM

2013-04-04_1914When trying to derive a clear cut origin for BDSM activities, one can encounter great difficulty since these kinds of erotic and non-erotic practices have experienced genuinely spontaneous creation within separate cultures all over the planet.

This is to say that practices and activities closely resembling what we know today as BDSM, do not necessarily have a common origin point. What this suggests to those individuals who seek to find a greater understanding of BDSM history, is that the practices involved with BDSM have a very natural place in the sexually exploratory realm of the human psyche.

It is within our nature as human beings to include some of the quintessentially BDSM elements into our sexual experimentation, which has been clearly exemplified by all of the different cultural generations of BDSM oriented activity.

One main origin point for BDSM style practices is within the 9th century B.C., when ritualistic whippings were becoming more prevalent in certain areas of ancient Sparta. These whippings were basically a component of an ancient pre-olympic religion, known as the Cult of Orthia.

Within this ancient religion, ritualistic whipping ceremonies were conducted quite frequently, and represent some of the oldest documented examples of sadomasochistic activities known to man. One of these examples is actually a type of graphical proof, which can be found in an Etruscan burial area located in Tarquinia.

Inside this ancient burial site, there is a very clear depiction of two men whipping a woman with a cane while they engage in sexual activity with her. This piece of evidence, which dates back to about the 6th century B.C., is a nearly indisputable account of BDSM style sex practices being performed by ancient peoples.

These ancient accounts of BDSM became steadily more popular after their initial introductions, and after these practices were developed, they began to take a prominent role in sex and foreplay oriented practices. This is only one cultural example of how BDSM type activities can quickly adopt a meaningful role in a society’s sexual consciousness.

2013-04-04_1937Another exemplification of BDSM’s origins and development over time is the Indian work known as the Kama Sutra. This piece of writing, whose composition began at some point around 400 B.C., serves as a profoundly important work in Indian culture.

This book is not only a manual for different sex positions, but it also represents a text containing information about the nature of love, life, family, and many other aspects of living that can be used to better a person’s existence. With regard to the Kama Sutra’s BDSM implications, this book is known to have contained at least four different types of prescribed hitting methods that are designed to be used during love making.

These four types of hitting are designed to enhance the experience of love making, and allow for participants to experience a sense of joyful pain. The Kama Sutra marks one origin point for BDSM type practices, and it also makes the ethical point that hitting and other kinds of BDSM oriented sexual maneuvering should only be performed on those participants who understand what is happening, and are willing to submit themselves to such treatment.

While the aforementioned examples of BDSM origins in different cultures are both examples from many centuries in the past (in the B.C. era even), there are some 14th century medieval examples of BDSM practices being originated in the west that are involved with what is known as courtly love.

Courtly love is essentially the way in which nobility and other high standing political and social entities in medieval Europe treated relationships with their numerous sexual partners. Courtly love, in the medieval context, described a kind of sexual practice wherein the submissive participants were treated very much like sexual slaves.

This was a kind of sexual relationship in which whipping could be used for stimulation, and also bondage became prevalent in this time to heighten the sense of having a sexual slave, so to speak. Medieval lords and noblemen would have their sexual subjects bound in some sort of containment area, which sometimes may have even been a genuine dungeon area.

Out of these early forms of BDSM practice have come the more modern variations, which seek to incorporate a heightened sense of equability and mutual enjoyment into the activities. In other words, while in the ancient and medieval times the BDSM subjects would often be used against their will, this is not necessarily a fundamental element of modern BDSM practice.

Today, BDSM participants often know full well what they are getting into, and a sense of mutual enjoyment is often derived from everyone involved.

 

Erotic Role Play and BDSM Experimentation

Introduction to Erotic Role Play

Reasons to Experiment with Erotic Role Play

Overview of Basic Role Playing Procedures

Equipment Used in Erotic Role Playing

Erotic Role Play

Sometimes, one of the best ways of making things interesting in the bedroom can be as simple as a game of make-believe with your partner. This kind of erotic role playing can really bring some imaginative life into your sexual explorations, and create an outlet for expression that is very unique in its nature.

There are literally infinite variations of erotic role playing scenarios; the only limit to what can be done with this kind of activity is the limit of one’s own abstract desires and fantasies. People have come up with a great variety of different role playing variations, but there are certainly still the traditional favorites such as police officer, school girl, and school teacher role playing fantasies.

When preparing to engage in an erotic role playing scenario, all participants should have a thorough discussion with each other about what is going to happen and what to expect with a given role playing experience.

This kind of effective communication can help to insure that everyone involved in an erotic role playing endeavor will feel safe and secure during the event. For the benefit of erotic role playing enthusiasts, as well as those individuals who feel compelled to try this type of sensual role playing, some of the basics of this enjoyable erotic practice will be briefly discussed. Continue reading “Erotic Role Play and BDSM Experimentation”

Rope Bondage, Knots, and Hitches

Rope Bondage

Certain BDSM practices, both of the erotic and non-erotic classification, may involve the use of different types of rope for the purpose of binding participants in a given BDSM act. This is a practice that has its origins in ancient times, and has been exemplified by a number of different cultures throughout the ages.

The act of rope facilitated knot and hitch bondage practicing can be an especially stimulating experience for many couples, since the contrast between the submissive and dominant elements within a typical rope bondage activity are very exciting for a large number of couples and other types of sexual and non-sexual BDSM experimenters.

When seeking to engage in this kind of extreme sensual experience, there are a number of important areas of skill to familiarize yourself with, in order to avoid any potential injuries or unpleasant complications.

First and foremost, the areas of specific knot and hitch tying methods should be carefully studied and practiced by the participants of a BDSM rope bondage event.

These are the primary means by which the submissive role player in the rope bondage act will actually be bound and restrained. For the benefit of experienced bondage enthusiasts who would like to learn a bit more about their craft, or even those individuals who are only marginally interested in the subject of rope bondage, some of the different types of rope bondage acts, and types of rope bondage knots and hitches will now be explained briefly.

 

An Introduction to Bondage Via Rope and Hitch

For many couples, the dynamic of control and submission offered by rope and hitch style BDSM bondage is a very erotic one. The general helplessness imposed on the submissive role in an act of this kind of bondage is, for most participants, the main focus of the action.

Although rope tying and hitching can be some of the best and most intricate ways to engage in exciting BDSM rope bondage acts, beginners should be aware that there are some methods of binding that do not require any ropes or specific knot tying knowledge.

These methods consist of using leather ankle and wrist cuffs in order to properly restrain the submissive role player in a BDSM bondage action. In many instances, these leather restraining devices work almost as well as their rope-tied counterparts do.

Fundamentally, rope and hitch style bondage methods can be used for erotic stimulation, as well as punishment, humiliation, or disciplinarian style BDSM role playing.

 

Punishment Oriented Rope and Hitch Style Bondage

When engaging in a type of rope and hitch style bondage that is geared toward a punishment theme, usually participants will be bound in relatively less restrictive ways. This is for the purpose of allowing the submissive role player to become increasingly uncomfortable over time, and also it helps to insure that this submissive participant will not be injured if they remain in their punishment oriented bondage restraints for an extended period of time.

By leaving the submissive participant in a loose binding restraint, the goal is to allow them the ability to stand or move around slightly so that they will become more bored and uncomfortable, which can serve to greatly heighten the bondage experience that its participants are trying to cultivate.

 

Restraint Oriented Rope and Hitch Style Bondage

Unlike the punishment oriented bondage style mentioned before, restraint oriented binding practices feature extremely restrictive rope and hitch structuring. The object of this rope bondage niche is to make the submissive participant experience as little mobility as possible.

This restraint oriented rope binding takes the helplessness component of rope bondage to a whole new level, and could probably be characterized as the standard or normative method of restraining a BDSM participant.

When restraining the submissive participant, there are basically two different ways to achieve restrictively successful binding positions; one of these ways is symmetric binding, and the other is asymmetric binding.

By alternating between the more conventional symmetrical rope binding patterns and some of the more unique asymmetrical ones, participants in this type of bondage activity can always be doing something different and spontaneous with their BDSM rope binding activities.

 

Types of Rope Used for BDSM Style Binding

Once it comes time to actually select the rope you’ll use in your bondage activities, there are a few different options to choose from. Each one of the available options for bondage rope has its own set of pros and cons, which is why each of these options will now be detailed briefly.

Nylon rope is generally a good rope to use for your bondage needs, since it is strong, as well as being waterproof and easy to untie.

Another option to use is cotton roping, but this option is generally not recommended since it does not usually wear well over time, and it retains moisture in such a way that predisposes it to also retaining potentially dangerous germs.

There are a few other types of rope that are sometimes used in rope knot and hitch bondage practices, but generally speaking the braided nylon roping will almost always be the best option to use for your BDSM bondage endeavors.

 

Types of Knots and Hitches Often Used in Rope Bondage

One of the most often utilized knots in bondage activities is the square knot (otherwise known as a reef knot), which is a relatively flat knot used to evenly distribute pressure onto the participant being restrained. This type of knot can be easier on the skin and flesh than many other rope bondage knot variations.

A good knot for tying ankles and wrists together for the purpose of immobilizing them is the French Bowline knot. This knot is perfect for wrist and ankle restraints since it will not spontaneously tighten or cut off a participant’s circulation like some other knots can.


The anchor hitch is a somewhat complex hitch design, and it is much stronger than its cousin, the half hitch. This is a knot that will not give way or deform even under intense stress, and actually becomes only tighter when resisted against.


All three of these knots are great examples of the knot and hitch designs than can best facilitate an enjoyable BDSM rope bondage experience.

Disclaimer: Any activity that involves ropes is potentially hazardous. Lives may be at risk – possibly your own. Considerable attention and effort have been made to ensure that these descriptions are accurate. However, many critical factors cannot be controlled, including: the choice of materials; the age, size, and condition of ropes; and the accuracy with which these descriptions have been followed. No responsibility is accepted for incidents arising from the use of this material.

Introduction to BDSM

Restraints and Bondage

Etiquette

Risk Reduction

Percussion Play

Whipping

New To BDSM?

For those lovers who wish to venture into uncharted waters in the bedroom, BDSM practices can be great outlets for expressing erotic, and some non-erotic desires.

In many countries around the world, men and women have been engaging in different types of BDSM activities for a long time.

Featuring a widely varying assortment of restraints, furniture, and other equipment, BDSM practices can take many forms.

For the benefit of beginning BDSM enthusiasts and intrigued newcomers alike, some of the most fundamental and important information concerning such aspects as safety, and proper use of BDSM equipment, will be discussed briefly.

 

BDSM Restraints and Bondage

Using restraints and other means of binding can be a stimulating twist for all parties involved. These interesting and tantalizing ways of expressing sexual desires are a safe way of feeling a rush of extreme sensation with your partner.

There is a lot to know when preparing to engage in using different types of restraints and bondage, especially with regard to using knots and tied materials to bind a consenting partner. 

With all of the variations of knots available to those engaging in BDSM practices, there are definitely those variations that are more effective and safe than others.

Beginning BDSM participants are typically advised to learn and extensively practice certain knots that are most conducive to BDSM style binding.

This advice is generally given to beginners due to the fact that when BDSM participants are not well educated on the right way to tie binding knots, there can sometimes be a resulting injury, or even a fatality. 

With regard to the potential risk of injury while engaging in BDSM binding practices, these risks can be easily mitigated by educating oneself on proper knot tying procedures, and also by only using binding materials that have some elasticity to them.

In addition, it is important to never, ever, leave someone alone if they are bound. This is because binding can sometimes cause unexpected consequences for a participant, and so someone should always be in the presence of the participant when they are bound to avoid injury or severe discomfort. 

 

BDSM Etiquette

Fundamentally, BDSM etiquette comes down to establishing a mutual understanding between participants. It comes down to effective communication, and a sense of respect. With regard to communication, BDSM participants should discuss such subjects as individual BDSM interests, needs, desires, health requirements, and respective STD statuses.

By discussing the critical elements of BDSM activity with your partner, it is likely that you will not only gain a heighten sense of closeness and intimacy with them, but a mutual understanding of personal BDSM preference will be achieved as well. 

It is important to negotiate the terms and limits of a given BDSM activity before beginning, so that all participants can feel comfortable about what is going to happen.

The use of safe words is an effective way to ensure that all participants in a given BDSM activity can easily signify that they are either enjoying what is happening, or not enjoying it, or requiring that the activity stop immediately.

Often times using the metaphor of a traffic light is a useful way of creating safe words that are descriptively accurate; green, yellow, and red are all good safe words to use when engaging in those BDSM activites that may be slightly higher-risk. 

 

BDSM Risk Reduction

Safety plays a huge role in successful and enjoyable BDSM experiences, and for this reason it is important for participants to fully understand the risks and dangers that can sometimes be involved, and also how to minimize and reduce these risks.

Some of these risks are caused by sexually transmitted diseases, which have a relatively low occurrence with regard to most BDSM practices, but can still pose a danger to participants.

Also, even if all participants have negotiated what is going to happen within a given activity, it is still advised that emergency and first aid equipment be kept nearby in case of a quick ending being necessitated.

Some of this BDSM emergency equipment includes safety scissors for quickly cutting through binding materials and other restraining devices, and larger shears and bolt cutters in the event that heavy duty chains and padlocks are being used in an activity. 

 

Percussion Play

Percussion play can be a more fun and lighthearted area of BDSM, or it can be heavier and more serious if desired. Involving light to heavy spanking, whipping, and the like, percussion play is a form of BDSM activity that can be relatively safe.

This is because percussion play variations rarely ever involve any kind of penetration, which means that the chance of sexually transmitting diseases to a partner is considerably lower than it would be with other types of BDSM activities.

When engaging in percussion play activities, it is important to only spank or whip muscled areas of the body. This means avoiding spanking or hitting boney areas of the body, joints, hands, feet, neck, and head areas due to their sensitivity to being struck, and the possibility of them being injured.

Buttocks, calves, thighs, chest and upper back areas are some of the recommended areas of the body for percussion play, due to the fact that the muscle on a person’s body can be struck or spanked and typically not suffer any injury.

 

 

Whipping

A specific variation of percussion play, whipping is a popular activity among BDSM enthusiasts. One thing to always remember when engaging in whipping style BDSM activities is that open cuts or sores should always be covered up before starting.

This can help to minimize any further injury, and also minimize the possibility of transmitting blood or other bodily fluids via a whip swinging through the air. When using whips, the possibility of drawing blood is always present.

If a whip is used exclusively for not drawing blood, then it is safe to use it on multiple participants; if it is used to draw blood, then it is best to only use this whip on one individual since whips are usually impossible to sterilize completely.

When all precautions are taken, whipping can be a very enjoyable BDSM practice for all participants.